It took me decades to talk about this with intimate partners and a therapist.Some say a man shouldn’t pay a price for an act he committed as a teenager.Your Rights File A Report Contact Someone Southern Connecticut State University's Support and Resource Team (SART) is designed to provide a collaborative victim-centered team response to sexual misconduct (sexual harassment, sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, and sexual exploitation).
This crime makes the world cold and scary and ruins the lives of the victims.
There are a few different types of rape, yet they all have the same effects on the victims.
It still doesn’t matter, but I was wearing a long-sleeved, black Betsey Johnson maxi dress that revealed only my shoulders. The next thing I remember is waking up to a very sharp stabbing pain like a knife blade between my legs. The pain was excruciating, and as he continued, my tears felt like fear. I imagined that adults would say: “What the hell were you doing in his apartment? ”I don’t think I classified it as rape — or even sex — in my head.
Afterward, he said, “I thought it would hurt less if you were asleep.” Then he drove me home. Not to my mother, not to my friends and certainly not to the police. That evening, I let my mother know when I was home, then went to sleep, hoping to forget that night. I’d always thought that when I lost my virginity, it would be a big deal — or at least a conscious decision. In my mind, when I one day had intercourse, it would be to express love, to share pleasure or to have a baby. Later, when I had other boyfriends my senior year of high school and in my first year of college, I lied to them — I said I was still a virgin. When I think about it now, I realize that by the time of this rape, I had already absorbed certain lessons.
Although many of the cases have suspects listed, there have been arrests made in only one case (Thacker).” This is potentially enough time for the rapist, who has not There are many different types of rape; there is “acquaintance rape, stranger rape, marital rape, gang rape, and drug facilitated rapes (Types of Rape).” “Deaths associated with rape are known to occur, though the prevalence of fatalities varies considerably across the world (Effects and Aftermath of Rape).” No matter the type of rape, the victims are left with bad memories.
There are also a few things that people could do to prevent being attacked.
They should be aware of their surroundings, don’t go places you know are considered rough alone, use the buddy system at night, carry pepper spray or mace, take a self-defense course, learn to have self control at parties and other functions, and learn to use your voice and yell out “help” if you should ever need to.
Rape is very common in our society; some of the incidents are even within family members.
Sexual harassment and sexual violence (sexual assault, domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, and sexual exploitation) are not acceptable behaviors in our community and are violations of the law, University policies and Student Code of Conduct.
The University is committed to providing prevention education and support services to our survivors and holding perpetrators accountable.